3 Ways to Audit Your Ego For A Healthy Self Concept
How does the ego affect us?
Our egos, or the personal identity, we prefer to bring to the world, can either work to our advantage or our demise. A healthy ego propels us to put our power to use to further our missions here in this lifetime. The balance of power can quickly shift from the higher self to the ego when we begin to believe everything it projects. When this imbalance happens within, the ego can leave you vulnerable to the blindspots it leaves in its self-fulfilling wake.
What if you could bypass the ego’s blindspots and use its limitations to your advantage by becoming aware of how the ego works?
Updated December 28th, 2021How to Keep the Ego In Check
Find Your Fears
The ego builds upon itself by constructing your reality based on your thoughts, which are supported by your belief systems. It strives to mirror back to you what you hold within to be perceived as accurate. What the ego can not find within will need to be located outside of itself to reinforce its foundation of beliefs. Consciously this manifests as fears and anxieties, which stem from a profound mistrust of being able to overcome whatever you fear in your reality. This fear can become the ego's breakfast, lunch, and dinner as it sets up more self-fulfilling prophecies in your external world to keep that same fear from being validated. This can hold you back from getting into the game of life as the ego keeps you "safe" when subconsciously, you are only being held hostage by your fears.
Question The Beliefs Behind Your Actions
Rigid beliefs narrow our ego's point of view. It can feel as if the walls are closing in on us when our egos feel slighted, and it can feel natural to react with anger and frustration in these moments impulsively. However, it is our ego's limiting beliefs that are closing in on us at that moment before our reactions. In these moments, it is optimal to exercise your power of choice to respond in a self-developing manner.
Ask yourself,
What could I covertly be agreeing to by choosing to react in this particular way?
Then Ask Yourself
What different responses are available to me that reinforces what I truly believe?
Justify With Innate Self-Worth
Sometimes we let our egos get away with themselves, believing its theories because they seemingly place us in a better position in our minds. Any thought that establishes a separation or difference between your perceived self (ego) and something external is dangerous because this separation promotes the idea that there is a disconnection between yourself and everything else in the universe. Mental energy is then put into perceiving your environment in a way that verifies this thought. Instead, save that mental energy and recognize that this separation is only an illusion made by the ego to justify itself. In the moments when we perceive ourselves against our external environment, using our innate self-worth - or the things we love about ourselves that someone or something could never take away, helps us to hear our truth about ourselves beyond comparison or illusion.
Can checking your ego be a good thing?
The advantage of checking your ego is that it provides you with the opportunity to practice self-mastery in a manner that opens you up to the authenticity of the human experience.
Those honest reflections allow you to make objective decisions about who you really are beneath your ego and what you will truly stand for. You will find yourself attracting the same people who can meet you on that level of self-honesty while repelling individuals who prefer to keep their true selves hidden by operating from their ego within their daily lives.