3 Mindsets to Increase Self-Acceptance in the Face of Change
When is the last time you ”swam downstream” " or practiced unconditional acceptance and surrender in the face of change?
What is unconditional self-acceptance?
Imagine yourself flowing down a peaceful river, backward, floating along with the stream. Consciously you do not have to do anything to make this happen; The weight of the water supports you as you sail into new destinations without needing to look at where you are going.
You easily trust that what is ahead will be better than whats’s behind.
You easily trust that what lies ahead will be used for your good and betterment.
This perfect flow between yourself and the environment can be seen as a metaphor for being in alignment.
However, resistance to the constant change that is life sometimes builds up and blocks our natural flow state.
Showing up with humility and acceptance instead of anxiety and fear over our circumstances when we perceive that our lives are unfolding takes courage, faith, and strength that we can train ourselves to access through our mindset.
Mindsets That Bloom Self-Acceptance
What You are Seeking, is Seeking You
I have read before that a desire is an omen or a sign that you have the ability or will soon have the ability to manifest exactly what you desire. This wish is on your heart for a reason. However, of the desires that we wanted to come into fruition, can we honestly say that we are ready for that to manifest tomorrow? Patience is not the easiest of practices, but it is necessary to exercise when we desire something that is not here right away. This mindset shift puts us in an elevated position to accept that what we seek may come in a different form than perceive is possible. Opening yourself to the full realm of possibility allows the universe to step in and surprise us in exciting ways.
There is No Need to Force Anything
How much destruction has been caused by people trying to force their way into something that did not come naturally? When we step outside of our lane to achieve something based on insecurity or lack, we are choosing to trust our singular perception instead of the bigger picture of life. I've discovered the former route did afford me temporary relief for what I was seeking, but it was superficial. It only added more insecurity into my life, which makes sense because that was the energy that brought me to the circumstance initially. Insecurity breeds more insecurity, so why step out on force to avoid that conclusion, instead of choosing the path of least resistance today?
Exactly What You Run From, You End Up Chasing
Resistances can sound a lot like, "Woulda-Coulda-Shoulda" statements running in the back of your mind. Resistances can also take the form of ruminating on the past and adding self-judgment amid experiencing change. We run in the opposite direction of acceptance when we begin to identify with these resistances and feed more energy and thoughts into validating them. This mindset shift inspires a moment to get real with yourself before the universe bears witness to your true intentions. It also serves as a warning to remind us that whatever we resist … persists!. That is why it is essential to get real with ourselves about our intentions, so we won't repeat the same situations because we were dishonest with ourselves.
Fighting against reality is a sign that we are not aligned with our reality because nothing is in opposition to us when we are not in opposition with ourselves.
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The Journey into Self-Acceptance
Our journey back into self-acceptance takes a different amount of time for everyone. It may take hearing a particular phrase, living through a situation, or learning a new perspective that releases the resistance that we may hold inside. Let me know what your experience is with s
Self-acceptance is not a moving target or a final destination but rather a continuous mindset shift that is essential to our progression through life, just like food, shelter, and water. In what ways are you providing yourself with this essential nutrient as you go throughout your days?